May 2016 Mental Arts Newsletter
We’ve recently launched a new website for the Mental Arts “Introduction to the Art of Rewriting” seminar to make it easy for anyone to find out about and to easily register for the seminar.
One of the biggest challenges we see for clients and especially business owners is when we get into conversation about what they want to accomplish and we find they either have a vaguely stated goal and/or several goals, with nothing being achieved. Within a few questions the client begins to see that there is something within their thinking, below the level of conscious awareness, where the issue originates as to why their goals go unrealized in the world.
One of the many books in our float centers “Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain”, by neuroscientist David Eagleman, explains how what we perceive and what we do is generated by a part of the mind below the level of conscious awareness. What he’s pointing at is that we may have blind spots in our thinking that generate stress and prevent us from achieving our goals.
The “Introduction to the Art of Rewriting” seminar is an experience where you will see how this principle operates in your own thinking. This seminar will introduce you to practical tools that you can use to adjust thought patterns so that they support the goals you want to achieve. To register for the seminar and find out more visit: www.intrototherewrite.com
Programming, The Biggest Fear
by John Worthington – author of “The Office of Shaman”
Lilly said that all adults living in the world today may be nothing more or less than the sum total of their programming. Consider this for a moment. There is a very real probability that all that we do, all that we think, all that we love, all that we like, all that we do, could possibly be nothing more and nothing less than the sum total of our programming.
For me the part of this that gives me pause to wonder is that the vast majority of those programs were written, in my case anyway, by a wet behind the ears farm boy. The really important programming, those programs which formed my “operating system” were written by that wet behind the ears farm boy who hadn’t even learned to read yet, and in fact, could not even talk all that well. That kid got some serious help from his mom and dad, to be sure, but he could and did override their suggestions on an all too regular basis.
Since those good old days I’ve written thousands and thousands of programs. But then we all do. If we only knew how we did it. That we do not know how we write programs for ourselves would seem strange at first glance. In this time of technological wonders we seem to have forgotten that the handiest computer we own is our own brain and we don’t know how that works. Not as well as we could to understand our own programming at least.
One of the things we hear people complain about is that they’re afraid that someone else can or will program them or us without them or us knowing it. That actually takes place but not because Doctor Mind Control does that vodoo that he does so well, but rather because we don’t pay attention to when we’re being programmed.
In the tank office we sometimes get caught by someone’s programming when we think we understand how they think or what they’re saying. We decide we “hear” them and launch off into an answer we think we’ve formulated to address what the client has said. But maybe we don’t have the experience to actually understand what that client is saying. And then we miss it. But, our brains do not miss anything. Our brains hear it all. Since we do not notice what the client is saying and our brain does, then we pick up the programming from the client. All of their emotions, feelings and even logic. All because we did not notice that the client believed that their childhood was awful. We thought they were saying that only their dad was awful, and they weren’t. They were saying though, that nothing worked for them.
After a few days we might notice that we’ve lost a certain level of energy. We might even be mopey or argumentative. When we review what happened we remember, however, that we might have missed what that client was saying. What makes this fun for float facilitators is that there are lots of people who come to float. Every single one of those people have their own programs and we must be aware of what those programs are, or at least might be, so that we don’t pick up programming that does not belong to us.
We’ve found that by paying attention to what is our own programming and what is the programming of someone else, results in us being more relaxed and much more mentally agile. We don’t worry. We don’t get depressed. We just learn to communicate information and to be wary of drama.
Stay tuned for more.
On the 14th of May, Art of Floating celebrated their three years in the Float business by holding a party and inviting everyone in the community to celebrate. The celebration included Jeff Walker from KRZ 98.5 as well as Tom and Monica from Hannah 92.3, broadcasting live from Art of Floating. Blues music was provided by John Sweeney and company. Vendors included Stephanie from Freas Farm Winery and Johnnie Compton’s special brew from Highway Manor Brewing Company. On display were Abigail Kurecian’s pottery and mugs, Ray a
nd Kathy Loftus’ art and jewelry designs and Brandi Lynn offered facial products to the
guests of the celebration. Food for the party was prepared by the wonderful people of The Blind Pig Kitchen in Bloomsburg, PA. The anniversary welcomed over two-hundred people from the community including regular and new floaters to come and enjoy three years of bringing rest and relaxation to northeastern Pennsylvania. Art of Floating wants to thank everyone who helped make the party a reality. It’s all about bringing people together.
Lawyers, Thought and Business…
by Ken Kaplan – owner of Quantum Floats, Bedminster, NJ/www.quantumfloats.com
Like many corporate lawyers, my firm is frequently retained by business owners in connection with the breakup of their business. These matters are so common that the term “business divorce” has been coined by attorneys to refer to this lucrative area of practice. Not surprisingly, the reasons people give for the breakup of a business are similar to the reasons they give for the breakup of a marriage. If you ask the client why the business failed, they’ll usually blame their partners for the divorce. If not, they’ll chalk it up to being “incompatible” or they’ll blame external forces such as the competition. Most lawyers at that point simply nod their head and begin the lengthy and expensive process of breaking up the business. Litigation is common and these matters can take months if not years to resolve.
I think that this is a disservice to our clients. The reason is because business owners don’t know what the real reasons are for the breakup. That’s because the reasons for the business divorce are hidden from them and lie in deeply engrained thought patterns that cause the business owner to perceive the world a certain way and which affect the way the business owners communicate (or, more accurately, fail to communicate). Like all people, business owners cannot see what they are thinking with. This is often the Achilles heal of business. So, what’s a lawyer to do? As business counsellors we have an obligation to assist our clients by getting to the root causes of the problem even when those root causes have to do with thinking patterns that our clients have used their whole lives. If we limit the tools at our disposal to what we have conventionally used, we’ll do just fine in terms of earning an income, but we’d be selling our clients short by turning a blind eye to behavior that will remain in place when the client starts the next business.
With a little specialized training, business lawyers can become aware of the thought patterns that affect their clients, and more importantly the clients recognizing those patterns. What if we, as lawyers and business people were equipped with tools to help our clients see those thought patterns that affect their business? Deeply engrained thought patterns usually are the very reason why our clients are looking for a business divorce and those thought patterns are the very same reason why they are guaranteed to repeat those patterns in their next business. I think lawyers would do well to understand where thought originates and how thought patterns below the level of conscious awareness account for the failure of businesses. Of course, in doing so, a lawyer, would first have to examine his or her own thinking. But if we care for our clients and want to distinguish our law firms from the competition, we will do just that, even if it means breaking from convention.
Ken Kaplan is a partner in Kaplan, Williams & Graffeo, a boutique business law firm in Morristown. Inspired by the personal and professional benefits that he experienced from floating and Mental Arts seminars, Ken decided to open his own float center. When fully completed in 2016, Quantum Floats will be one of the largest float centers in the country. Ken also consults with business owners and managers, through Quantum Consulting, to help them recognize and change non-conscious thinking patterns that shape the quality of communication with colleagues, customers, and others, and which limit the business’ outcomes.